The Bulletproof Journal

You set out a goal, you imagine how things will happen, you picture how you will feel when you get there and then...it doesn't happen. Does this sound familiar? You tried but you just weren't good enough to reach that goal, right? Likely, it is not your goals that are unreachable, it is your standards. Good enough? [Copyright Bulletproof Journalist] Slowly moving away from 'perfection', we arrive to the land of 'good enough'. On paper that all seems great and genuinely positive because it erases the pressure of trying to reach something impossible. Good enough allows for mistakes and flaws. Usually. Unless you are, like me, setting that standard so high that you end up expecting perfection. I always had really rigid expectations of myself, it didn't matter that someone else might have been doing something for years to get to a level, I wanted to get there right there and then. This was not about the other person (who I adored and respected for their...

Losing loved ones is inevitable. This is one of the cold, hard truths of life that makes us wish we were still children, blissfully oblivious. Loved ones come and go, sometimes they just disappear, sometimes they stab us where it hurts the most, sometimes they lose themselves and sometimes they die. Either way, we find ourselves strangely empty. This post can't offer ready solutions, but there is one thing that might help your closure. This thing is something that helped me through my grief and showed me how to make peace with what happened. The numbness, the pain, the anger, the confusion, the hopelessness are emotions that need to be accepted when it comes to grief. Sometimes, our own reactions might shock, disgust or terrify us. These are the feelings that at the end of the day, only we can handle. Time helps, support helps, self-care helps, but we still need to walk through those five stages of grief. If you or someone around you is going through a loss, I recommend you read u...